This song hits the nail on the head!

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Some of you may remember back to this post I wrote to my {step}daughter on my wedding day.

I was driving to lunch yesterday and the song by Darius Rucker came on, “It won’t be like this for long.”  That song hits me on so many levels.  The first time I heard the song was late 2008, driving down the road, I believe I was in the truck with my parents, and yes I had tears running down my eyes.

I saw my dad/parents in the guys shoes… and me as the daughter.

He didn’t have to wake up
He’d been up all night
Layin’ there in bed listenin’
To his new born baby cry
He makes a pot of coffee
He splashes water on his face
His wife gives him a kiss and says
It gonna be OK

It won’t be like this for long
One day we’ll look back laughin’
At the week we brought her home
This phase is gonna fly by
So baby just hold on
‘Cause it won’t be like this for long

My first day of Kindergarden they tell me my dad had a hard time… I didn’t want him to take me to school, I was going to ride the bus with the “big kids”.  By 2nd grade I had to change schools and I almost cried when he just wanted to drop me off and wouldn’t walk me into the school.  He didn’t ever get out of walking me into the school building again until late late grade school or junior high.

Four years later ‘bout 4:30
She’s crawling in their bed
And when he drops her off at preschool
She’s clinging to his leg
The teacher peels her off of him
He says what can I do
She says now don’t you worry
This’ll only last a week or two

It won’t be like this for long
One day soon you’ll drop her off
And she won’t even know you’re gone
This phase is gonna fly by
If you can just hold on
It won’t be like this for long

As a teenager, I guess I got along fairly well with my parents.  Not to many fights broke loose at our house until my senior year when I was freaking out about going on to college.  College seemed like 2nd grade all over again, new school, bigger school, new town, dorms, so much to change, I was freaked out!  In fact toward the latter part of my senior year all hell broke loose at our house a few times when I missed deadlines for college applications, scholarships, etc, or trying to make sure I didn’t miss deadlines.

A lot had happened to my family during my high school years and I was just extremely nervous to move on.  I wasn’t ready.  High school was good to me and college scared the crap out of me.

Some day soon she’ll be a teenager
And at times he’ll think she hates him

But we made it through high school, the teenage years and even college too :).  I was out of college for 3 years by the time I’d heard this song and at that time in life I wasn’t in a good place… I was in a relationship that wasn’t the best but I hoped would get better and as we all know it didn’t.  But the best thing happened, I got into a great relationship, one that my parents loved the guy and the guy treats me awesome and I went on to get married and while I was at it became a {step}mom to a great girl.

Then he’ll walk her down the aisle
And he’ll raise her veil
But right now she’s up and cryin’
And the truth is that he don’t mind
As he kisses her good night
And she says her prayers

He lays down there beside her
‘Til her eyes are finally closed
And just watchin’ her it breaks his heart
Cause he already knows

It won’t be like this for long
One day soon that little girl is gonna be
All grown up and gone
Yeah, this phase is gonna fly by
So, he’s tryin’ to hold on

‘Cause it won’t be like this for long

It won’t be like this for long

It won’t be like this for long

Every time I hear this song I break down in tears thinking of my dad (& mom too).


I was driving to lunch yesterday and I heard this song come on the radio and a different scenario popped into my head for the first time and of course the silly song proceeded to bring tears down my eyes again.

I may not have given birth to Tbug, but she is very much mine.  A couple weekends ago when we bought her new boots and then went to go ride horses at my parents, she went to put her spurs on her new boots and they wouldn’t fit.  I told her to bring them with us and I’d figure something out when we got to mom & dad’s house.  I went in the house and grabbed a pair of my old spurs, pulled my old straps off of them and put her straps on my old spurs and they fit.

We put them on her boots and I asked hubs what to do with her old spurs and he told me to put them in the truck, we may need them again someday and silly me as I was walking to the truck with her “kid” spurs in my hands I started tearing up.  He grinned at me and I told him to shut up and walked on.  But even days that we have to take her back to her mom, driving down the road my silly eyes well up with tears.  I miss that I wasn’t there for her birth, her first steps, words (although sometimes I wish she didn’t know how to talk), etc… but I’m here now.

I still remember that she told her dad she didn’t want an evil step mom so she didn’t want him to re-marry for that reason, but he married me and I hope she never thinks of me that way, but I can’t help but admit that I’m afraid someday she’ll hate my guts.  When that time comes it’ll break my heart!

So I’m sorry this was a really long post today and a very deep but this is how I feel and some of the things I’ve been dealing with lately.

So I’ll leave you with this song 🙂


0 thoughts on “This song hits the nail on the head!

  1. I love that song.

    My friend danced with her dad to it at her wedding, and I still can't make it through the whole thing without getting teary.

  2. It was a great day for Country Music when he made the switch.

    My hubby laughs at me when I get emotional, too. 😉

    *hugs* ♥ 🙂

  3. A guy I work with is an amazing guitar player and loves learning new songs, so I often burn him CDs of songs I think he might like. One day he came into work all red-eyed, and told me he'd been driving in when this song came on a CD I'd made him, and he started listening to the words, and he ended up a big mushy mess (his son had just had a baby girl not long before, so it struck a chord with him)…It definitely has that effect on people!

    TBug will always love you…I'm sure of it 🙂

  4. How is it that I've never read that older post before? I actually think it's wonderful how open you are about your strong love for T. I've never heard that song but it's pretty awesome. It would actually make a great dad-daughter dance. T's a lucky lady!

  5. Isn't that funny how we can hear a song and like it but not be affected, and then poof all of the sudden we are? I made a dvd for my daughter(the teen) of her from birth to present for her bday one song I used –I used two–was In My Daughters Eyes…I think it's a beautiful song. Girl, I was bawling while I made the vid. It was crazy. So yeah…it happens.

    And no way are you an evil step mom!

  6. I love this song, too!! It's neat how your perspective has changed on it now. I am sure that you are a GREAT stepmom!! She is lucky to have you!!

  7. Now I have tears in my eyes. What a great song. I know I take my years now for granted, but I will miss them when they're gone. I'm also sure you're a great stepmom. My 7-year-old already thinks I'm a terrible mom at least a couple times a week. 🙂

  8. Oh gosh, this reminds me of that one song… “I loved her first” I can't remember who did it, but it came out the same year I got married. It always made me sad when I heard it and thought of my dad. Now I have to think about John and our little girl when I hear it!
    There is another one by Trace Adkins I think that is similar.

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