Me | Midwestern At Heart

Wow, I learned this weekend I need THICKER skin. Kids say the darndest things and I’ll be honest I don’t have much experience with kids in the first place, but WOW they are brutally honest. Even when they don’t know what they are talking about or don’t realize they are doing it.

Last year I was on the Victoria’s Secret website and found this shirt.

I fell in love with it! But I’m a little on the shy/modest side so I feel very self conscious wearing stuff like this, plus I was dating a guy who didn’t compliment me hardly at all. I finally got you look “good” but that could be in a ratty pair of jeans or an extremely expensive evening gown so my thoughts, Why Bother! Anyway I watched this shirt for months. Finally I couldn’t take it any longer and I had to buy it. I bought it in blue. Well he didn’t appreciate it, go figure but I loved it. But again, being self conscious I hardly wear it.

Now jump forward a bit, my fiance, LOVES when I dress up and he lets me know it. He likes cute shirts, etc. So yesterday I wore this shirt. I hadn’t in a while, I thought if I went outside maybe I could get rid of some of my tan lines, I love the shirt so heck why not.

Tbug proceeds to tell me that I have on a shirt that is too small and doesn’t fit me right. I’m not sure what she was basing it off of though… All I’ve ever seen her mother in is t-shirts so maybe she doesn’t wear tube tops? Maybe Tbug figured since it was a tube top, she didn’t know what that was so she thought I was trying to make something fit that didn’t? I truthfully don’t have a clue but I’ll tell you it hurt! I proceeded to explain it was a tube top and that’s how they were supposed to fit… trying to describe a tube top. She said oh ok and walked on… Yeesh!

Take two….

This doesn’t require so much thick skin really as just, KIDS! We all jumped in the pool yesterday afternoon. PC had 3 noodles, I had 3 noodles and Tbug stuck with her tube.

We also had 2 lounging floats. Well PC decided to put his noodles on the floating lounge. Me, I had the other floating lounge and was using it to wheel around the pool jumping up and down on the noodles so I didn’t go completely under water (hard to describe but short point, I was using it). Well when PC did this then Tbug wanted noodles so she got 3 and then wanted the other floating lounger. Well since I had it and was using it I didn’t give it up so she was mad. Said she didn’t get the noodles just for that, even though we knew she did. So then eventually she put her tube on and came to the deep end with us and latched on to the floating lounge I had. Well I got something in my eye so I let go to rub my eye and she snatched on to the floating lounge. I asked for it back and she said, “But I had it first.”
I said, “Excuse me who had it first?”
-I did.
-Who did? I believe I had it first and you took it from me.
-No I didn’t. I had it first.
-If you had it first then why did you have to ask me for it?

Yeah that stopped her. I guess I was kind of mean but I made her give it back to me because I’d told her she couldn’t have it before she took it. I just thought if I didn’t she’d try me again later.

She did make me extremely happy though, she cleaned up her room before she left to go home yesterday and she kept it clean the entire weekend. Plus she helped move her clothes wherever they needed to be but boy I’m scared to be the hated step-mother.

Peace, Love & Thicker Skin!