Real Heart to Heart
My life hasn’t panned out the way I always thought it would. Are you raising your eyebrows at me a bit? Let me explain…
When I was 17, I knew I wasn’t ready to be married, that’s for sure. I was way way way toooooo immature. Now I was 17 when I graduated, I turned 18 that following Summer. At that time I was getting ready to go off to college. I had applied for a few schools and been accepted to every one of them. I wanted like anything to go to Oklahoma State University in Stillwater, OK, but something held me back.
I’m an only child so there was that factor. My dad got sick my sophomore year of high school and OSU was far away, there was that factor. I was dating a guy, we were just at a year of dating, there was that factor. And I was flat out scared. I didn’t know anyone who went to OSU although I had my heart set on going there.
Well all my fears won out and I went to MSU. (technically SMSU, it changed the August after I graduated but if I tell any high schooler know I went to SMS they look at me like I have a horn growing out my nose.) To tell you how bad I wanted to go to OSU, when we went to SMS to enroll me, I was crying. My parents said, fine we’ll head to Stillwater and enroll you there. I told them no, I’ll stick it out the semester, maybe even the year and transfer.
Well then I made friends and you know the rest of the story… I didn’t transfer.
Skip forward 4 years. I was about to graduate college, I was 21 years old. I had dreams.
- Graduate college.
- Get a job teaching High School Agriculture.
- Be married by the time I was 23.
- Go back and get my Masters.
- Own a house.
- Own a new car.
You get the picture.
I did graduate college, 4 years baby!
I finally got a job, but not having anything to do with Agriculture, not that I didn’t try. I kind of live in a weird area.
I didn’t get married until I was 27.
I still plan on getting my masters but I’m not there yet.
I finally bought a house with my husband when I was 26 almost 27.
I got my new car in 2011.
I swore I’d never marry a guy with a kid or one that had been previously married. Way toooooo much baggage. Boy I sure ate crow there.
But boy, did God have a better plan for my life than I did. Hindsight is 20/20 for sure!
I’m not going to lie to you, our life isn’t perfect. No one’s is… don’t be fooled! But, it’s pretty perfect for us.
I have a lot of friends who kind of fall into the same boat I was in… when will he come, will he ever get here, am I being looked over, etc. Heck at 25 years old, I thought I was broken. I thought no one would want me.
Basically I say this to tell you that there is a perfect plan for you. Hang on, enjoy the ride, and we’ll all be here rooting for your great story!
Happy Friday.
I always thought i would be married by 23 too even though i didnt really want to be and I was 27 as well!
This is a beautiful post! And I too thought I would be married a lot younger than 28 but God had other plans…I definitely didn't think I would be a mother before I was married but God has other plans! I wouldn't change anything in life…so Thank God for his other plans!!!
Yes, letting go of our expectations is the key. I think the wonderfulness God has planned for us is so much bigger and better than our tiny minds can dream up for ourselves.
As a side note: The only thing I knew I didn't want in a man,(being an animal loving vegetarian and all) was a guy who didn't hunt or own a gun. My husband hunted quail when we met, seemed it didn't matter. He doesn't anymore, but still, never thought I would have fallen for that guy – you never know 🙂
I love reading posts like this. God's timing is perfect for sure!
It must be the week for heart-to-hearts, huh? I kind of felt that way yesterday with my post!
You give me hope… I have no idea why I'm still waiting, and I'm no where near where I wanted to be at this stage in my life… I have to just trust that there's a plan, and when the time is right, I'll be right where I need to be.
Good post. & Hello!
Patricia http://topiaryrose.blogspot.com
I have always maintained…we become what we think about….
Great post! I agree with Jill – it must be the week of heart to hearts!
I was born in Ohio, so probably should have gone to OSU but went to MSU instead.
My husband started his degree years ago at MSU, went to the military and didn't finish. This semester (first semester back for him) he has enrolled at MICHIGAN!!! He spent his whole life hating on the Wolverines and now look at him! 🙂
Life is full of twists and turns, and LOTS of surprises. Like you said though…all ending up better than we could have planned. 🙂
you take the road you are on, all the twist and turns got you where you are, and that is where you need to be
What a lovely post!! Made me think about how my life is certainly so much different than I could have ever imagined as well. And I wouldn't change a thing 🙂
Thanks for linking up this post with my NO RULES Weekend Blog Party 🙂
Have a great weekend 🙂
Paula
lifeasweknowitbypaula.blogspot.com
Awesome awesome post. And yes, He really does have the perfect plan for us- which often isn't our first (or even second) plan. I am glad things worked out for you
Yeah I always told myself the same thing. I said I would never get pregnant before I was married and I would never be with a guy that had been married or had kids. Well Chris has been married once before, and actually had 2 kids before we got together. Hey at least I didn't get pregnant before getting married. Oh well, I know without a shadow of a doubt, that he is the perfect man for me. Funny how life never quite turns out as planned. By the way, for some reasonyour post, kind of sort of sounds a little bit like you might have baby fever?! ;)I'm just kidding (Or am I)
I always find it so funny how we plan our lives, but it happens the way it's supposed to happen!